FAQ

By no means can all the actions of people described in the Bible serve as a model for us to imitate. The Bible is a profoundly realistic book; it tells the truth not only about God, but also about us and our history. Alas, people often behave in the most inappropriate ways, even the best among us. This is precisely what explains some of the unseemly actions of biblical characters. Because the authors of the Bible did not set out to embellish reality and paint everything in a rosy light, they tell us the truth about their heroes. Yes, some of them lie. But there is nothing good in this. At the same time, we must remember that they were people of their time, and the understanding of what is permissible and impermissible in the Old Testament differs significantly from that of the New Testament. Humanity was by no means immediately ready to accept the fullness of moral requirements, and even now we cannot say that we are completely ready for it.

As for a "lie for a good cause," one can say that it is not permitted, but nevertheless it occurs. God is able to turn the results of our bad actions toward good—however, one must not presume upon this. There are situations when a person is unable or lacks the opportunity to act as they ought. It is precisely regarding such situations that Christians pray, saying, "lead us not into temptation."

Finally, it is impossible to give a general answer to the question "is it permissible to lie if..." without delving into the specific situation. Generally speaking, it is not. But the Apostle Paul has a remarkable expression: "Blessed is the one who does not condemn himself by what he approves." In each specific case, a Christian can bring their problem of moral choice to God and receive help.

And lastly: to "honor" someone by no means implies giving them the right to dictate one's spiritual life. Unbelieving parents cannot permit or forbid their children who are of a conscious age, much less adults, to attend Church. However, in such situations one must always pray and seek ways to avoid conflict and to not give people, including parents, a cause for stumbling. With spouses it is not as simple, but one can also say that the primary spiritual weapons here are love and prayer.