The Kingdom of God comes into this world, but a person must take a step toward it, for it is like a wedding feast to which everyone is invited, but not everyone wants to come. Very much depends on this step; that is why Christ speaks of it in such serious words. He may require everything from a person, even to the point of forgetting himself for the sake of the Kingdom. In order to take this step, the Good News must become more important than the things most important to a person: home, household, family, confidence in the future. (The Aramaic pair "love-hate" here simply means "prefer.")

But a serious step requires a serious decision, perhaps even more serious than the decision of the king or the tower builder in these parables. Christ wants trust, but He does not require madness: a person must soberly "calculate" whether the Gospel is truly more precious to him than all the rest of life, and if so, step toward it.

As we can see, Jesus directly warns each person what the way into the Kingdom costs. And He advises: before you decide to follow Me, weigh everything calmly and soberly. Do you want what I can give you? Are you ready to walk the path you will have to walk? Of course, there is no desire here to frighten anyone or turn anyone away from the way into the Kingdom. But there is an understanding that, once a person has set foot on this path, turning aside from it later, if it remains possible at all, will come with serious spiritual losses, and perhaps not only spiritual ones.

It is no accident that the Savior compares the situation of someone preparing to enter the Christian path with the situation of a person preparing to build a watchtower in his field, or with the situation of a ruler preparing to go to war against a neighbor. In both cases it is better to think everything through before beginning, because failure can leave a person in a position far worse than the one he would have been in if he had abandoned the plan. According to Jesus, the cost of the way is renouncing everything this untransformed world, lying in evil, can give.

It is no accident that the Savior uses the image of the cross. In the Gospel era it was clear to everyone in Judea, since all the inhabitants of the country still remembered the revolt that had taken place earlier, during the years of independence, when the revolt organized by the Pharisaic brotherhood against Alexander Jannaeus was suppressed. In the rebels' judgment, that ruler had pursued a policy completely contrary to the Torah. At that time the participants in the revolt suppressed by the authorities were crucified: a punishment not only agonizing, but also humiliating for any Jew.

Jesus directly warns everyone who wants to follow Him: one must be ready for anything, as the participants in that revolt were ready for anything for the sake of their faith, and even the cross did not frighten them. The point here is not that the Kingdom Jesus brought into the world will have to be established by force, as the participants in the revolt under Alexander Jannaeus wanted to establish it by force.

The point is that, according to the Savior's own word, it is "not of this world." Therefore "this world" will always be hostile to it, not because of nature, which can be transformed and which in the end will be transformed, but because of the evil that entered the world after the fall. This conflict with the forces of evil acting in the world is what makes the cross inevitable for every Christian, in one form or another. But, as we can see, there is no other road into the Kingdom. And each person, of course, decides for himself whether to walk it.

This approach to life and relationships can seem maximalist and therefore not very realistic, but only at first glance. In fact, the apostle's words are deeper than they appear at first, and therefore they are entirely realistic, provided, of course, that one looks at love not as emotions, dividing everyone around by the principle "like - dislike," "appealing - unappealing," but as relationships that do not depend on emotions or sympathies. In that case it becomes clear that relationships are precisely what condition everything else, everything included in the concept of the inner Torah. Indeed, the inner Torah is above all the aspirations, desires, and intentions that determine a person's spiritual life. These can either correspond to God's commandments, experienced by the person as an inner spiritual and moral imperative, or fail to correspond to them.

It is customary to think that physically we are what we eat, and psychically we are what we think and feel. Spiritually, however, we are what we desire and what we strive for. Jesus Himself says this briefly and simply: where your treasure is, there your heart is also. But desires, aspirations, and the intentions connected with them can exist in our heart in different ways.

They can be something self-sufficient, governing us and determining our attitude toward those around us and toward the world in general, while submitting to no one and nothing, including ourselves. Or they can be part of relationships and work to support and build them. In the first case, one can speak of love only in a certain sense and only up to a certain point, because often it is precisely our desires that destroy our relationships with other people when they become self-sufficient.

At times relationships can collapse because of the most ordinary and not very deep negative emotions, which take our will captive and force us to desire, or more precisely in this case not to desire, what in fact is important and dear to us but does not look that way when emotions gain the upper hand over us. In the second case, however, when relationships themselves are experienced by a person as true value, no emotions or desires in themselves become self-valued for him anymore. And then he can be at peace about keeping the commandments: with such an attitude toward one's neighbor, it is hard for a person to think of violating them, at least those that define his relationships with that very neighbor.

If you love, you no longer need to train yourself in polite words and polite smiles; you no longer need to restrain negative emotions toward another person: they simply are not there, and words and smiles arise on the tongue and on the face by themselves. Then following the inner Torah becomes completely natural and organic for a person. All the more if we are speaking of the love that unites the inhabitants of the Kingdom: here there is the fullness presupposed by the ideal of the living Torah, toward which in Gospel times every Christian strove as the goal of spiritual life, as that which would make him like Christ.